Skyscrapers and String



Becoming Unravelled

Those of you that have been reading my blog awhile will remember how awful my parents were to my Grandad; he was a war hero and my best friend, he was disabled and had cancer, but he was beautiful. They had all his money from where they sold his house, and then by tricking him out of their house three years ago to go into a weeks “respite care” they then made him homeless at 94 years old, and we had to sort everything out for him, but he’d lost heart from their betrayal, and he eventually died in my arms two years ago on 26th November. It nearly broke me.

After ditching Grandad, my parents cut us off completely, they moved away without telling us, not a phone call, no birthday or Christmas cards for my daughter, we heard nothing from them, not a word, nothing for three years.

Four days after we returned from the best summer holiday of my life this year, where I finally found myself at peace after a long bout of depression triggered by the above events, with graceful timing my step Dad got back in touch, as he was in a wheelchair with bad Parkinson’s, and my Mum had bad dementia.

I have been round a few times now, and Social Services are now involved but nothing seems to be happening. Their newly built house is literally full of bin bags, the kitchen counters are full of mouldy cake. My step Dad asked me to help him look for his mobile phone as he’d lost it and I discovered the horror of the kitchen and as I opened the kitchen cabinets, and recoiled in horror as there were two broken eggs which were reeking terribly in one.

Not so funny for their next door neighbour, but it made me chuckle, Mum had opened the door to the postman yesterday and signed for a parcel for the lady next door, but of course as soon as she took it indoors she lost it, and has no idea where it could have gone. God knows where all the lost things are. Probably will all be found with their consciences.

They offered me a lift home lol, as if I’d get in a car with a pair of crazies!

I took some snaps of my family when I was there today, The picture below might be my Great Grandmother, or her mother. I have no way of knowing. We all look so alike.

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Here are my “other” Grandparents, my stepDad’s parents, they were alright to me but my Grandad Harry was a handful. He would always call my Mum “Binks”, which was the name of one of his nieces, and get my step dad totally plastered until he was sick, my Mum would boil with anger when he did this. My Nanny Frances was nice, she would have liked Amber.

Frances is in the middle, my Nanny is on the right. So much drinking occurred when the family was together all the women in any pictures always look angry. Still, until today I never had any photos of Harry or Frances.

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I reported both my parents to the dvla today as unfit to drive, they are in such a state they need to be in a home. I intend to have stern words with the social worker on Monday.

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  1. * itwasjudith says:

    sad story, I’m sorry for the pain and emotional burden this must be causing you

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    | Reply Posted 4 years, 7 months ago
    • * jengolightly says:

      Thankyou! It’s ok, the thing with Grandad was the worst, but I’m proud of how I did the beat I could for him and to be honest, I’m probably doing well talking about it and getting it off my chest, there must be loads of people worse off than me! Xx

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  2. * alisonsye says:

    You have a lot on your plate, don’t forget to give some time to yourself . Thinking of you 🙂

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    | Reply Posted 4 years, 7 months ago
    • * jengolightly says:

      Thankyou! I am happily knitting the edging on Amber’s cardigan, we are all in the warm and Jon is setting up my new coffee machine later! Hugs xxx

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      | Reply Posted 4 years, 7 months ago
      • * alisonsye says:

        Sounds great. We are all revving up for Dr. Who (not my thing, but I am outnumbered)!

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        Posted 4 years, 7 months ago
      • * jengolightly says:

        Oh yes! We watched it too, super telly! Also, exciting trailer for new Sherlock series in the offing, love that in our house as well!

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        Posted 4 years, 6 months ago
      • * alisonsye says:

        Yes, love it but I’m a big fan of the books and love the way they’ve updated.

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        Posted 4 years, 6 months ago
  3. As they say, ‘what goes around, comes around’ how ironic that your parents may now need the care of a home…… my mother also has Parkinsons.. it is manageable but the day she ‘officially’ found out she stopped driving.. I do bully her sometimes out of frustration as she often ‘falls’ resulting in fractures etc. which my dad has to deal with.. chin up !! You did the right thing.. don’t beat yourself up .. you are a good kind person who deserves better 🙂

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    | Reply Posted 4 years, 6 months ago
    • * jengolightly says:

      That’s very understanding and kind! If one of the two of them was well it wouldn’t be so bad!!!

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      | Reply Posted 4 years, 6 months ago


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